onlinecounsellingcollege:

Almost everyone feels socially awkward at times. It’s partly generated by fearing we don’t know how to fit in with others, or meet social expectations. Tips to help with overcoming feeling socially awkward include

1. Recognize that most people feel that way at times – even if they hide it, and they look quite confident. So your feelings are quite normal (something many struggle with).

2. Pay attention to your selftalk. Don’t criticize yourself. Be kind and understanding, and gentle with yourself. Also, you need to be your own best friend – who there’s to say that you WON’T fail!

3. Try to locate the source of your feelings. Is it because you are in a new situation and don’t know what is expected of you? Is it because you’re naturally introverted and shy? Is it because you’ve been bullied or made fun of it the past? Is it because you feel you don’t belong, or haven’t been accepted by the people you are with?

4. Attack and address the source of those negative feelings. Especially work on accepting, valuing and thinking well of yourself. Also, making small talk, being friendly and chatting naturally are skills that you can work on, learn, and master over time.

5. Remind yourself these people are not your final judges!!! Also, there’s no need to feel inadequate, inferior, or ashamed.

6. Expect things to go well, and focus hard on being relaxed. Take slow deep breaths, and build a picture of picture yourself feeling confident.

7. Try to act relaxed and confident (regardless of your feelings) and you’ll find that you feel better, and less anxious and afraid.

stormsandspells:

Hey lovely witches, Yule is almost upon us so here are just a few things about Yule that I would consider useful for everyone

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Also known as Solstice Night, or the longest night of the year, the sun’s “rebirth” was celebrated with much joy. On this night, our ancestors celebrated the rebirth of the Oak King, the Sun King, the Giver of Life that warmed the frozen Earth. From this day forward, the days would become longer.

Symbols of Yule:

Yule log, or small Yule log with 3 candles, evergreen boughs or wreaths, holly, mistletoe hung in doorways, gold pillar candles, baskets of clove studded fruit, a simmering pot of wassail, poinsettias, christmas cactus.

Herbs of Yule:

Bayberry, blessed thistle, evergreen, frankincense holly, laurel, mistletoe, oak, pine, sage, yellow cedar.

Foods of Yule:

Cookies and caraway cakes soaked in cider, fruits, nuts, pork dishes, turkey, eggnog, ginger tea, spiced cider, wassail, or lamb’s wool (ale, sugar, nutmeg, roasted apples).

Incense of Yule:

Pine, cedar, bayberry, cinnamon.

Colors of Yule:

Red, green, gold, white, silver, yellow, orange.

Stones of Yule:

Rubies, bloodstones, garnets, emeralds, diamonds.

Activities of Yule:

Caroling, burning the Yule log, decorating the Yule tree, exchanging of presents, kissing under the mistletoe

Best spells during Yule:

Peace, harmony, love, and increased happiness.

Deities of Yule:

Goddesses-Brighid, Isis, Demeter, Gaea, Diana, The Great Mother. Gods-Apollo, Ra, Odin, Lugh, The Oak King, The Horned One, The Green Man, The Divine Child, Mabon.

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