tea-core:

based on this post, with my own additions. these tips can be used both for school tasks and for everyday tasks like cooking or cleaning, but they are mostly focussed on school!

not working because you feel tired?

  • eat and drink something! often I don’t notice that I’m hungry or thirsty and just feel really fatigued and don’t know why. then I eat/drink and feel better really quickly!
  • have something with a bit of caffeine.
  • try to expose yourself to natural (or at least bright) light.
  • do a mini workout to get your heart pumping. skipping is fun?
  • keep yourself stimulated. play upbeat music, use bright colours in your notes, etc.

not working because you’re struggling to think straight or or organise your thoughts?

  • talk through what you need to get done with a friend, your teacher/professor, etc. they can help you organise your thoughts around the task and come up with a plan!
  • break the task up into small, easy to approach chunks. write them down.
  • use a visual planning method like a mindmap to organise your thoughts – putting them down like this can help you sort out the confusing tangled mess of thoughts in your brain.

not working because you feel bored or frustrated with the task and are struggling to push through it?

  • reward yourself for completing parts of the task (keep the reward non-distracting though, or it can lead to the next problem!). you could set up an accountability system with a friend – they could, for example, promise to bake you something if you manage to get a task done on time.
  • list the reasons why you should finish the task. use these as motivation.
  • relieve your restless energy by doing something active during your breaks (like working out), and by keeping yourself stimulated while working on the task (for example by using a fidget toy).
  • if it’s frustrating because it’s difficult, get help!
  • modify the task to make it a bit more fun. relate it back to your interests, use fun stationery, etc. this might involve asking your teacher/professor if you can complete an alternate task. they’re usually pretty accommodating.

not working because you’re distracted by other activities?

  • use an app like ‘Forest’ to encourage you to work solidly on your task for a period of time without getting distracted.
  • block distracting websites.
  • write down thoughts and activities that you want to come back to later after finishing your task, rather than getting caught up in them.
  • related to above – use the Chrome extension ‘Tab Snooze’ to put distracting browser tabs away for later.
  • if you don’t need internet for your task, go work somewhere where you can’t access the internet.

not working because you feel stressed about the task and trying to do it makes you feel worse?

  • try the two-minute rule – work on the task for just two minutes. you might find that after this time the initial anxiety around starting the task has faded and you can continue to work on it.
  • similarly, break your task up into small, manageable chunks and approach them one-by-one. remember that something is better than nothing, even if that something is just writing out the subheadings in your report.
  • try to make your work environment calm and comfy to soothe you while you work on the task – turn a heater on if you like it to be warm, keep the space minimal and organised, play calm music, etc.
  • get help from others! a chat with a friend or teacher/professor about the task can help reassure you and they will probably also have helpful advice about how to approach it.
Source: tea-core

cryingtearsofglitter:

✧･ﾟ: *✧ ways to be an angel ✧･ﾟ: *✧

– moisturise your lips, hands & face, especially during colder months!

– drink more water. if you struggle with that, maybe try flavoured water or diluting juice

– if you wear makeup, wear a little extra blush, it makes you look so rosy and pretty ♡

– try to be as nice as you can as often as you can. i know it can be hard sometimes, but it feels so good

– if you have a favourite song, try listening to an instrumental piano version. (if there is one)

– light candles often, they look so soft and they smell nice! always remember to blow them out before you leave the room though ♡

– make an effort to not talk about people behind their back. i know it can be tempting, but in the end it just hurts people

– paint your nails a soft colour

– be yourself! you’re amazing the way you are, and you’re so loved. people glow when they are truly themselves

How to get the most out of life

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. See each day as a fresh start and a new beginning.

2. Don’t be a copy of anybody else – enjoy discovering and being your true self.

3. Be proactive, take control and look for opportunities. You’ve only got one life so make sure you stay in control.

4. Don’t focus on the obstacles or things you cannot change. Just ask yourself “What next? or else “What can I do instead?”

5. Appreciate your limits and then set clear boundaries. You need to care for yourself to be the best “you” you can be.

6. Decide on your values and what matters most to you. Then live in a way that’s consistent with those values.

7. Don’t put life on hold as the months turn into years … and there’s always the chance that some important doors will close.

8. Set goals for yourself – then plan the steps to take you there.

9. Learn from other people that you value as role models – but ignore the naysayers and the hypercritical.

10. Let go of the past, and old hurts and grievances. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, or to see a counsellor.